We find answers when we own problems.

Waking up to another tragedy and watching reporters search for cause and meaning in all directions (religion, radicalism, discrimination, anti-gun, pro-gun, mental health, fundamentalism, political parties, etc…) is evidence of a sad reality where personal responsibility is sparse and judgement has quietly reached epic proportions.

We spend more energy and time on judgement than we do on actually finding a solution.

Maybe if we use half of the time spent posting, reporting, and talking about who’s at fault and what “they” should do to fix it, and instead spent some time looking at what ‘we can do’—then maybe empathy, hope, and sustainable change could have a chance.

Hate is born from division, exclusion and misused fear.

Love is born from inclusion, empathy, understanding, and grace.

Not the kind of inclusion and love practiced within our likeminded communities and comfort zones, but that which is lived outeverywhere with everyone. We are all in this together and are all part of the problem & solution.

It’s an “us” problem, not a “them” problem.

So I’ve been in thought this week about how I contribute (or don’t) to both the problem and solution.

Often when I don’t know what to do I do nothing.

Everyone knows things need to change but does anyone know that means us too?

How we respond either speeds up the change process or slows it down. So how do we move from a culture that consumes to one that contributes? How do we become a culture that participates in solution rather than just trying to pray away the problem?

I know accountability matters, fingers need to be pointed, this needs to be politicized, and the conversation must be had. If however that were enough, things might already be different and there worse.

Let’s no longer allow not knowing what to doget in the way of doing something.

I grieve and pray alongside these tragic losses, and will do my best to act and be part of the solution to this systemic global problem.

The victims deserve better and so do we. Change is a messy process and worth us owning our part.

I’ve been in the change business long enough to know that changing anyone or anything starts with changing ourselves.

Let’s move beyond the comfort of blame.

Let’s put down the microscope, pick up the mirror, and work together towards love and solution.

Outrage and avoidance are no longer working and action starts with inquiry and conversation. Start a conversation today with your family, friends, work and church, about what needs to change with us so we can be apart of the change we seek in others.

When intolerance ends, restoration begins.